Sunday, January 8, 2012

It's easy being green


A facelift can be good for the soul. And one day I will probably boost my soul with one. But until then, I'm loving these trash to treasure projects.

The decor at our Oxford getaway is DIY chic thanks to my good friend Lori Burson, who can make a snap decorating decision in the time it takes to hang a picture.


Above left, Nanny's chair recovered with a geometric pattern. Not real comfy ... but real cute!

Above right: the table from my childhood house on Dixie Avenue, painted cream and roughed up with Lori's rotary sander. Some recovered club chairs I found in the attic give it pizzaz.

Right: Also from my grandmother's house in downtown Hattiesburg -- side tables, which were once an outdated maple, look so adorable painted lime green and placed alongside her antique iron bed.

My next project, once I figure it out, is painting an Asian-inspired lamp with bright colors like this one above, which I spotted in a store window in Oxford.

My lamp needs its youth and vitality restored ... a nip and a tuck of beauty that, yes, is skin deep and just what the doctor ordered.


Wednesday, January 4, 2012

I've come a long way baby

A man from South Central Bell came to my first grade classroom at Davis Elementary 45 years ago. Yes, it's been 45 years.

His name was Ott Brockman and I remember him predicting a future of robots and picture phones. He even showed us a model -- white frame, black screen, receiver perched beside it. George and Jane Jetson-style.

Fascinating!

But what if someone called when you had curlers in your hair, or worse ... what if you were walking through the house naked and your phone rang? Troubling.

All these years I've waited, expected. Other fantabulous things have come into my life. Televisions with hundreds of channels (then, we had two) and radio stations tailored to my whims (in 1960s Hattiesburg, everybody tuned into WXXX, affectionately known as Triple X, for the latest).

Now there are microwaves (no, we didn't have those) and voicemail (didn't have that either).

In 2012, we don't have to wait for a meal to cook or a boy to call
or a favorite song to play on the radio.

And now, thanks to an iPad with facetime, I have my very own picture phone.

As my grandmother would say: Oh my stars!

Sunday, January 1, 2012

Life is like a game of Twister

So, what would you like people to remember about you when you die?
It kind of helps put New Year's resolutions into perspective.
Here's what they might say:
She had a great, comfortable house
She exercised every day.
She loved her dog.
She tried, unsuccessfully, to wear all the cute clothes in her closet but there were too many tee shirt/sweatshirt days.

Not too good, as funerals go.

I think I'd prefer:
She was generous.
She took on people as a project and really stuck with them.
She tried to just be ... before going out and just doing.

Of course the beginning of a new year is no time to think about funerals, but it is a time to consider priorities and think about the road you are taking or the couch on which you are reclining.

So what will this year bring? An abundant life or a retiring life? Here's hoping it's rich with activity, emotion, friends and strangers. Here's hoping it's difficult and challenging and a real stretch.

Reminds me of a phrase that harkens back to Nancy Ratliff's high school Latin class:
Non est vivere sed valere vita est
Life is more than just being alive.






Sunday, December 25, 2011

These are a few of my favorite things

Christmas china

Croaking carolers

Peter's "I Like Turtles" Ornament

Cool Christmas card display

Mexico Nativity Scene

Vintage Reindeer Panorama from my Aunt Earline

The Rockettes Christmas ornament

Pickenpaw Pottery Angels

It's beginning to look a lot like the end



When the stress of December grabbed me with a vengeance, I took a step back and decided to enjoy the holiday in pieces, take it as it came, not put too much significance on one party or event. Not obsess about the perfect gifts. Be flexible and spontaneous. Adjust, enjoy.

The entire holiday was great -- from the ugly Christmas sweater Young Life party to the Chilean dinner Christmas day night. Along the way, some great friends showed up at my house and some unexpected treasures arrived.

As much as we want to be in charge, the best things flit in -- unorchestrated -- and dance around your living room for a short while, then venture off.

So it was with my good friend Rhonda, who arrived unexpectedly from Phoenix and brought a Rhonda party every night. Three days later she was gone, flying off to Mexico in her U.S. Airways uniform for a beachy Christmas layover.

There were bittersweet moments, rich with emotion, as I shared in the death of my good friend's daddy and agonized over the sicknesses of a teen-ager, a baby, a friend's husband.

Some of the best gifts were spontaneous, the "here-take-it" kind: A Michael Buble Christmas C.D., a vintage white geometric pendant on a green bead chain from my daughter's jewelry chest, the stunning view of Crested Butte mountain.

So here's to learning to take things as they come and lean in.

I'm ready to do it all again. Just the same but different.







Saturday, April 9, 2011


The Family Research project Rachel's English teacher assigned is a mammoth effort. Despite all the groaning about essay writing, we are grateful for results like this -- Rachel's essay about her dad:

The Gift of Life

What makes someone a hero? When I am asked this question, I think of Superman. What makes him heroic? He has super strength and he can fly, but ultimately, he is loved and revered because he saves lives. My dad does not have super strength, and he can’t fly without the help of heavy machinery, but he is my hero because he saved my life.

In November of 1994, I contracted a fever that just would not go away. The fever could not be explained and, at numerous doctor visits, my mom got the same response: “It’s just a fever. It will go away soon. Don’t worry.” She did worry though, because the fever – and my crankiness – lingered. Finally, on December 29, 1994, my pediatrician did a comprehensive blood test. The results revealed that something was terribly wrong. Doctors in Laurel sent us immediately to specialists at University Medical Center in Jackson. After blood tests, a bone marrow biopsy, and finally a kidney biopsy, doctors had a name for my problem: crescentic glamerulo nephritis. In this disease, the body’s immune system attacks the kidney. Doctors were baffled because this disease is most often found in young men and old people. I was the youngest recorded patient ever to have this disease. I was going to need a transplant to get better.

Weeks of hospital recovery, minor surgeries and setbacks followed. Finally, doctors said I was ready, but we encountered another problem. I was too small. All transplant centers in the South had a weight requirement of at least 44 pounds before they would operate. That certainly posed a problem, because I weighed less than 20 pounds and, without a kidney, a person does not grow. Our nephrologist in Jackson suggested we try a teaching hospital in Minnesota, so we did.

After several months of nightly dialysis, I travelled to the University of Minnesota Medical Center for the exhaustive pre-transplant evaluation. Every doctor imaginable came into my hospital room. They would poke and prod me until they were satisfied and then another set of physicians would enter. Even dentists were sent in to look at my teeth! Finally, they said I was ready.

After the doctors in Minnesota agreed to do the transplant, they tested each of my parents to see if either was a tissue match. Thankfully, both my parents were matches! My dad immediately decided he would be the one to donate. He knew that if my mom had the surgery he would end up taking care of the both of us. “I knew I could get back on my feet quicker than your mom,” my dad told me. “I could also get back to work faster, because your mom could take care of you.” My mom agreed, and the date for the transplant was set.

On December 13, 1995, my dad and I went into surgery. Dr. John Najarean, the transplant surgeon, carried the kidney himself from my dad’s operating room into my operating room. The transplant lasted 10 hours because they had trouble fitting my dad’s large kidney into such a small body. Both patients came out of the operating room with pain, but no complications. The kidney worked perfectly, and it has continued working well for the past 15 years.

Many people praised my dad. They called his decision heroic and talked about the sacrifice he made. One of his friends even said, “I work so hard for my kids that I would be named father of the year if it wasn’t for Bob Gholson giving his darn kidney to his daughter.” When I asked my dad if he felt heroic he said, “I didn’t even think about it. There was no question. I did what I did, not because I wanted to be ‘heroic.’ My daughter, whom I love, needed me and that was it.” My dad will not admit that he is a hero, but everyone agrees he is. His weakness is not Kryptonite, and he does not change clothes in telephone booths, but Bob Gholson is my very own Superman.